Spiritual Overdraft

Have you ever looked at your financial credit report and feel personally attacked? Like, dang, Experian, you didn't have to expose me like this. I mean, you miss one lil' payment in 2017 and suddenly your whole reputation is in the streets.

But here's the thing nobody told me: Healing your heart, your boundaries, your sense of self-worth? Baby, that comes with an Emotional Credit Report - and let me tell you, mine used to look like it had been through the Great Recession, the housing crash, AND several seasons of "Love & Hip Hop."

Seriously, once upon a time, I was out here emotionally swiping my heart like a debit card with no overdraft protection. Lonely? Swipe. He texted "wyd?" Swipe. I thought red flags were carnival decorations? Swipe, Swipe, Swipe.

And every swipe came with a fee. Not the cute kind. More like the "why did I let this man borrow my peace?" kind. Just like that moment when you check your bank account after brunch, I looked at my emotional balance one day and said: "Wow I am spiritually over drafted."

When you ignore your financial bills, the collections agencies pop up with aggressive phone calls. But when you ignore your emotional bills the universe sends messages like:

"Hey Sis, remember that boundary you refused to set? Yeah, here' the same situation, again but worse."

"You said you were done settling? Cute, Now prove it."

The Universe stays on your neck like a collection company. Persistent and Unrelenting. But maturity is realizing...it's not punishment. It's a wake up call to rebuild.

So just like when fixing your financial credit, I had to freeze some accounts because not everybody deserves access to your heart's credit line. Some folks need to stay "DECLINED" no explanation needed. Then I had to start making some emotional "on time" payments by way of therapy, choosing myself even when it's uncomfortable and understanding that NO is a full sentence.

Since my emotional FICO has started flexing I realized something powerful:

I can give without going broke.

I can trust again - but slowly intentionally and with boundaries tighter than TSA.

Like never before, Im protecting my credit - ALL forms of it.

Sis, so can you!

Your heart is a high value asset like beachfront property and your joy is generational wealth. Your peace is that high end handbag and your healing - that's the investment that keeps on giving, like stock in a company that never stops leveling up.

And anybody who wants access to you needs to be financially AND emotionally pre-approved. You cant be out here giving prime credit to subprime energy.